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Signs That Your Wife Might be Cheating On You
How to Catch a Cheating Spouse
Infidelity is an ever-growing issue in the early 2020s. While some people may handle polyamory or polygamy, there are millions of both men and women who prefer traditional marriage and faithfulness. As a consequence, divorce rates are high and more and more couples are seeking counseling, as well as separation attorneys.
There may be different reasons behind your spouse being unfaithful. Emotional and sexual unfulfillment play a major role in most splits. Financial or health issues that couples don’t discuss in a timely manner also contribute to the separation. Alternatively, your spouse may have simply fallen out of love or acted out of anger.
However, this article will not deal with the causes of marital infidelity. Instead, it will focus on how you can discern whether one's wife is seeing someone in secret.
Before we move onto the list, we will need a brief disclaimer. While the signs listed below can point to cheating, there’s a high chance they’re mere changes in behavior. Therefore, we advise not jumping to conclusions until you have concrete evidence of unfaithful behavior.
List of Telltale Cheating Signs
Social Media Activity Increases
Does your wife spend more time on social media platforms than before? One must keep in mind that a large percentage of couples today have social media accounts. Therefore, it’s not out of the ordinary to see your spouse using a smart device more often than usual. However, there are ways you can be sure that her social media behavior is pointing to infidelity:
- Is she spending a lot more time on the phone or computer than usual?
- Is she ignoring you while focusing on social media?
- Did she change any passwords that you may have shared or known about previously?
- Did she sign up for any alternative social media platforms (i.e., Parler, Gab, Telegram, Discord, VK, Gettr, Truth Social, MeWe, Minds) without notifying you beforehand?
- Did she remove any material content or hide certain posts?
Changes in Physical Appearance
Partners that aim to date outside of marriage will often change or upgrade their appearance. Therefore, if your partner is showing drastic changes in the way they look, it might be a telltale sign. Broadly speaking, women who cheat tend to buy new clothes, get new haircuts, wear risque underwear, apply more makeup than usual, etc. Sometimes, the changes can manifest in different ways. For example, a woman might want to get in shape for her new partner. Therefore, she will take up fitness, yoga, pilates, or other types of intense physical activity.
Naturally, changes to her appearance may just come as a personal choice rather than an effort to look appealing to their lover. If your spouse invites you to engage in the same activities as her, then there’s no cause for concern. On the other hand, you might want to explore the possibility of infidelity if she’s secretive about her activities or refuses to let you partake in them.
Changes in Behavior
A change in one’s behavior can be either subtle or noticeable, and there are endless possibilities. Perhaps she will act more agreeable to you than ever before in order to hide her intentions. Alternatively, she might act aggressively towards you due to the mounting frustration. The instances of her nitpicking your minor mistakes can also be a clue. The key is to notice any potential changes early. Once you do, it’s time to start planning for the worst.
Changes in Work Habits
If your wife is employed and has recently received a promotion or a position change, then different work habits are expected. That will include staying longer hours at the office or going on more business trips. And broadly speaking, that’s perfectly normal and not a reason for concern.
Now, if there hasn’t been a significant change at the office, but she still comes back late far too often, you will want to look into it more. In addition, even the biggest corporations don’t organize weekly business trips for low-level employees.
Increased Alcohol Intake
An individual’s drinking habits can reveal a lot about their current behavior and/or frame of mind. When it comes to the matter of infidelity, more women than men tend to drink in excess when they’re being unfaithful. But it goes beyond the matter of quantity. An unfaithful woman will be prone to going out and drinking with her friends more often than a faithful one. Knowing that, you ought to observe the level of alcohol in the house and note down any significant changes.
How to Handle Infidelity
It’s never easy to learn about your partner of many years finding pleasure in other partners without your knowledge or consent. Some initial anger and disappointment are understandably expected, though we advise not to act immediately. Approaching the matter level-headed will give you a higher chance of achieving justice.
Once you’ve calmed down from the initial news, the best solution is to consult your local family law practice and start working on the problem. Sometimes, it may end with you and your wife working through the problem together. But there’s always a possibility of a separation, if not outright divorce, so it’s best to be legally covered when it comes to that. The key is to present the facts to the court and come out of the ordeal as a healed individual.
