A Vengeful Divorce Makes Things Worse On Everyone

The period leading up to or after a divorce can be harder to deal with than the divorce process itself. Some people feel the urge to act in a way that is hurtful to the other party. Indeed it is understandable how this could be very tempting. However, that never brings long-term content, and it’s simply unhealthy for the mind. Though it’s usually justified as a one-time revenge, the end result is often an endless chain of overreactions between the parties involved. When in doubt about anything that may influence the divorce process, it’s best to contact your divorce attorney in Wilmington.

Building up negative thoughts and stress is definitely the last thing someone going through a divorce needs. But we recognize one’s ignorance of the possible consequences during that period. Below are examples as to why seeking vengeance is a bad idea.

1. Don't Become Greedy
Don't let the, "I'm a victim, so I deserve extra compensation," infect your thinking. If your main focus becomes money, things are going to get ugly fast. Money will be a part of the divorce process, but getting greedy can prolong things and will just bring out the worst. You may get some more money out of the process, or it could backfire on you. Don't compromise your integrity just because you are rightfully angry. If children are involved consider how making the focus on money will effect them. Your divorce attorney will be there to make sure that things are fair.

2. Public and Social Embarrassment
More often than not, people going through a divorce feel the need to convince others that they are the ones who have been wronged. However, publicly belittling their spouse will never make them look better in other people’s eyes. Also, many of us have seen some troubling divorce drama on Social Media. This is a bad idea. When your emotion are inflamed, you are likely to say and share things that you should not and will later regret. So stay away from social media bashing.

3. Leaving Suddenly
To someone feeling oppressed in marriage, the thought of packing their things and leaving may seem liberating. But the other party certainly won’t appreciate the sight of a half-empty home.

4. Falsely accusing the other party of child abuse
Any type of false accusation is illegal. Furthermore, having their parent falsely accused of child abuse will affect the children themselves. However, if there’s any real reason to believe your spouse is guilty of child maltreatment, please contact your divorce attorney in Wilmington.

5. Getting the other party fired
If the other party doesn’t have a job, they’re unable to provide spousal support or child support. It will also affect our next example.

6. Canceling the credit cards
In some states, the law prevents the partners from canceling their joint credit cards when they file for divorce. An agreement between them is necessary. Some of the options are paying off the debt or dividing it and transferring it to cards in each partner’s name.

7. Moving out of state with the children
Moving out of state with the children is also illegal in some states. But that isn’t the only reason it’s a wrong thing to do. At any age, children are more aware of the events around them than most people give them credit for. Furthermore, this will hurt the other party as well.

Divorce is rarely a smooth process, don't make it worse. 

 Emotions run high and every conflict between the parties involved is magnified. However, a good divorce is better than a bad marriage. In order to achieve that, we strongly recommend consulting a divorce attorney in Wilmington. Doing so is the way to spare both parties the consequences they might not have foreseen.